Shruti Reddy: From dealing with Code to dealing with Death

My guest in this episode is a woman who deals with death on a daily basis. What do you think her profession is? A policewoman? A cancer surgeon? A forensic investigator? Or perhaps a writer of crime fiction?  

Let me give you another hint. She is someone who moved from what’s probably the most common profession chosen by engineering graduates in India, to the most uncommon one. You probably guessed the first part — yes, she started in IT. What she did later is a lot harder to guess.

Shruti Reddy started working as a developer in the IT industry in 2006. But after about a decade in what she describes as “hard-core techie” roles, she quit and started a funeral services company. That’s right, a company that offers services “assisting you in your loved ones last journey”. 

I must confess I was a bit nervous about how this episode would turn out. That’s because while the subject matter was fascinating, I wondered if the conversation would live upto the expectations this topic generated. I needn’t have worried. Shruti, as you will soon hear, animates the conversation with her unbounded energy and enthusiasm, traits that have kept her going in this very difficult field. She opens up about the challenges she faced starting this venture, and she shares her ambitions for the future — not just of her company but of the industry in general. She talks about her previous life in the IT industry, the attitudes she saw there, and how she dealt with them. She reveals her deep interest in spirituality and her thoughts on a good death. She ruminates on how the five years in this field have changed her personally. 

Death may be a morbid subject, but this conversation is anything but morbid. I hope you have as much fun listening to Shruti as I did talking to her.

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The following transcript has been edited for length and clarity.

In the last week or so whenever I have told any friend of my mine that my next podcast guest is a woman who left IT and started a funeral services company, they have become immediately super curious. Their eyes widen, their ears perk up, and they want to know more. That was my reaction too when I first heard about you from Malini who was in this podcast in January.

So perhaps that is a good place to begin — with an overview of your current venture Anthyesti. Why don’t you tell me a little bit about the services you offer in this company and your current role there.

Anthyesti as the name suggests is actually one of the sixteen sanskaras of the Hindu life. The last sanskara is the Anthyesti samskara, which means last rites. That’s where I picked up my company’s name from.

I would like to introduce Anthyesti as a professional funeral planning solution, more of a one stop solution when it comes to arranging of your dead body carriers. hearse vans, freezer boxes, preservation of the dead, embalming and also ending with the cremation day. Sometimes going into the event management, wherein we do the twelve day or thirteenth day Shrardh pooja services. And in very rare cases, something we just started off just a couple of months back, the “asthi visarjan” (immersion of the ashes) in the holy places across India, like Varanasi.

Further, when someone loses a relative or a friend in a different country or a different city, we also have the transportation available in terms of train, air and road. When I mean transportation it is not just a logistics job but it has more to do with coordination with the funeral undertakers over there and coordination with the family over here. So the documentation, the clearances, the customs, the police — there are lot of people that come into play if we have to transport a coffin from a different country to your hometown.

The last case that I remember — during covid time — is one where we helped one of our clients fulfil the last wishes of his dead mom by doing the dispersal of ashes in the holy Ganges in Rameswaram and also in Kasi.

Well firstly kudos to the child who ensured that their mom’s last wishes were fulfilled. And my team was actually there with the client and their family all through their stay in Varanasi, giving a very personal touch to them while the complete processes and rituals were going on. We even accompanied them to Rameswaram and that is how we gave a very beautiful end to their mother’s last wishes. 

Now this is what gives me my kick in this service Manohar.  See how do you really feel when you know that you are fulfilling someone’s last wishes who isn’t even related to you? This is what makes me really happy to the core. This was the main reason why I have come up with Anthyesti.

I wanted to do something so that when I die at least fifty million people think about me.

Another example that I could share of is of a case again during Covid. There was a sailor’s body that was stuck at Glasgow, okay. And his brother-in-law was coordinating with us all the way from Glasgow and the body needed to go to Bhardaman in West Bengal. I started Anthyesti in Calcutta about four years back so I would say that we are headquartered at Calcutta and my initial first team members are present there in Calcutta. And with the help of them we ensured them that the body was transported safely all the way from Glasgow to the deceased’s wife in Bhardhaman.

And now during Covid time even the trains were not working, it so happened that the family couldn’t come down from Bhardhaman to Calcutta airport. But then we had taken the complete responsibility — or rather my team present in Calcutta they had taken the complete responsibility — from Kolkata airport and then they ensured that the body reached safely in Bardhaman.

These team members when they had delivered the coffin, the family members were literally holding my team member’s hands while weeping over the coffin. This is really for me a goosebumps kind of experience whenever we go through these cases day in and day out.

I would say that this is more of a ‘blessing over bucks’ kind of business that we are in to. So, this is the main reason I quit my IT job bad got into a profession where it’s really a nice experience at the end of the day when you feel that you are impacting so many people’s lives.

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Malini Gowrishankar: From IT to Voice-overs to Travel Entrepreneurship and back to IT

I chose the name ‘Uncommon Transitions’ in the plural to showcase the plurality of transitions across a group of people, not a single person. And the trend so far has been exactly that: each person has had one major transition. But my guest in this episode breaks that trend, and how! Over a career spanning sixteen years, Malini Gowrishankar has been through multiple transitions spanning very different fields. She started in IT, then became a Voice-Over artist, dabbled in between as a Radio Jockey, founded a travel company for women travellers in India, and now she’s back in IT part-time in a very different role to the one she began her career in. 

I love this conversation for the way it brings out Malini’s curiosity to see what’s on the other side, her drive to embrace heterogeneity, her desire for social impact, and her business acumen which she’s developed not through some fancy MBA program but by building businesses and their brands from scratch. I learned so much from this insightful conversation, and I hope you do too.

This podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout and is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and other podcast players.

More on Malini’s vocations and public appearances

Voice-over Website: Voice of Malini

Travel website: F5 Escapes

TEDx Talk: Pushing Margins

The following transcript has been edited for length and clarity.

When I was looking at your profile, it struck me that when I compare your profile to the others whom I have interviewed on this podcast, the kind of transitions and the number of transitions you’ve been through is very different. To use your own words on your website, you say your “career graph is quite strange. My experience spans multiple industries – 7 years in IT industry, over a decade in voice-overs and 7 years in travel.”  We’ll spend some time on all those as we go through your career arc, but I want to start with the voice-over part — one, because you are in the voice-over industry right now and secondly, it is probably something not many people know too much about. So what does a voice-over artist do, and how does a day in the life of a voice-over artist look like?

Honestly speaking I never even thought that one day I would actually be asked to speak about this journey of uncommon transitions. So, thank you for starting this podcast, and I feel validated in a way that all these jumps have indeed been very fruitful and it looks interesting and potentially helpful to other people with their career journeys.

Coming to the voice-over industry, I did not know that there is an industry called voice-overs. I had a lot of exposure to media as a teenager but that was where it stopped. I was happily in the IT industry but sometime in 2006, someone told me that you have a good voice and you should probably try voice-overs. This was at a studio where I went to record my singing voice so they said there is an opportunity why don’t you do it? So I asked what is voiceover and what do I do? And they told me what they currently have is a project which involves lending a voice to the character of Parvati which was a series of Ganesha stories. This was an animated CD ROMs project, and I said yes and that is how the first voiceover happened.

Over the years, I realized that this industry is not just limited to animated CD ROMs, this industry that encompasses multiple applications which include audio books, radio jingles, television commercials, telephone IVRs and many more. So that is how I got into the voice-over industry and that is exactly what voice-over means. You lend your voice to all these different applications.

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Girija Hariharan: From IT practice to the practice of art

This episode is a long, meandering conversation, the sort you would have with an artist who thinks deeply about art and life. Girija Hariharan spent a decade and a half in the IT industry before taking up painting full-time in 2015. She began her art career as a muralist, painting walls at the homes of friends willing to let her experiment, but these days she uses any medium that catches her fancy, including cardboard from discarded boxes. Her art conveys an intriguing mix of mythology and anthropology, often with clear feminist echoes. 

In our conversation Girija talks about balancing the artist’s and the business-person’s sensibility — her right and left brain at work, as she puts it. What also emerges is her deep-rooted desire for social development and her inclination to stay grounded in reality. She speaks about the importance of going with the flow in both art and life, and about what separates a hobbyist from a professional artist. 

This podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout and is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and other podcast players.

More on Girija’s art and social activities

Instagram: @2flatbrush
Recent blog on Deka series: Matsya
Charity trust: Annai Charitable Trust

The following transcript has been edited for length and clarity.

I’m going to start with simple and perhaps naive question. You have this website called and your Instagram handle also follows the same name. What’s behind that name 2flatbrush?

It is a very quirky little thing. I usually have size 2 flat brush in my handbag since my college days — I’ve always carried it around anywhere. So when I was trying to keep a name for my business, I asked a couple of my friends and they gave some ideas like mural, something to do with the word play around murals, some very weird names. And then I looked into my handbag and I saw this brush, and I said okay it’s going to be 2flatbrush. Probably there is a reason behind why we have such keepsakes; this size 2 flat brush has been with me since 1997.

You call yourself an artist and a muralist, and your work spans different themes from mythology, feminism, nature among others. It also spans different styles: you are right now into abstract impressionism, you work also consists of realist portraits with abstract backgrounds, you’ve also experimented with word art, you want to do graffiti. Can you tell me what you are working on right now?

Yes, I am working on my current series called deka. It stands for 10 and is loosely based on Dashavatara — the ten avatars that Vishnu took to sustain or nurture the world through different stages of evolution of mankind. People equate Dashavatara with Darwin’s evolution; some people equate it with Noah’s ark. There are so many parallels between this Dashavatara and the history of the world. So I wanted to look at all of it from a feminist perspective because sustenance and nurturing comes naturally to women, and I wanted to hunt for these unknown figures in human history who have contributed towards nurturing the earth through different stages of human civilization. I plan to paint each avatar as a woman loosely related to the ten avatars of Vishnu.

For example the first one is Matsya, which is fish based and I am actually going to paint Ama divers. I don’t know if I am pronouncing it correctly, it is a Japanese name. Basically these female Japanese divers were the first pearl harvesters of the world and they did deep diving without any scuba gear or oxygen tanks. They do free diving and they bring all these oysters. They put a small irritant into the oysters and once they mature into pearls they go and harvest it and come back out. Apparently there were 6000-7000 Ama divers, and as little girls they are trained to expand their lung capacity in order to learn this kind of diving. Right now there are only 60 to 70 such divers in Japan.

So I want to paint these women as the keepers of pearls, it is a very metaphorical idea — if you know about the concept of Gaia, Gaia is our bhoomadevi concept which is very similar to personifying the entire earth as a woman, and the earth always gives and gives and gives, so Gaia also gives and gives and gives. This whole idea started out with my thought process around Gaia and how she is always contributing or offering something to the world like our earth. So all of these paintings will be based on an environmentally and ecological perspective as well. Currently I am doing a lot of research on feminist anthropology for this series. So far I have three paintings in my mind; I haven’t started working on them yet.  

[In the meantime, Girija has finished Matsya (pictured above) is working on her next work in the series.]

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Sindu Verma: From BPO Manager to Daycare Entrepreneur

Sindu Verma is someone who has worn – and still wears – different hats: She’s a mother, a manager, and an entrepreneur. She spent over a decade in the BPO industry in Mumbai and Bangalore before deciding to call it quits. The challenge she faced was one that’s common to most working women today: how to find a balance between your desire to work and grow at work and your desire to care for and spend time with your children? Sindu found a unique solution to this challenge, and we talk about her journey in some detail. This is an entrepreneur’s journey, but not the typical “tech entrepreneur” so common these days.

The daycare Sindu started in 2008 – Teddies Daycare – is presently dormant due to the ongoing pandemic. Apart from staying in touch with the children and parents through online channels, she has hosted webinars on nutrition and children and Corona and children.

One of the things I love about this conversation is the way it brings out Sindu’s delight at being in the world of children. She’s also very open about the difficulties the daycare industry faces in a place like India, where parents still carry a lot of guilt about sending one’s child away to be taken care of by someone else.

This podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout and is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and other podcast players.

The following transcript has been edited for length and clarity.

We have a lot of ground to cover as we speak about your career, but perhaps a good place to begin would be to start at your daycare – The Teddies Daycare that you started. Why don’t you give me a quick overview of your daycare.

I started the daycare in 2008 basically for my own son. The idea was to help a few moms like me. Before the daycare when I was struggling managing work and the baby, the seed of thought was along the following lines: this could be a nice place where mom’s could guilt free drop their babies and then go to work and give their 200% at work without worrying about how the child is throughout the day, and then come back and see a happy child and take the baby back home.

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Chandrajith Belliappa: From writing programs to writing screenplays

Chandrajith Belliappa grew up in a small town in Karnataka. As a child he wanted to be an actor first, and later a director. This in itself isn’t unusual –  we’ve all had our share of childhood dreams. But Chandrajith kept his interest alive through school, college, and during his years as a software engineer. He read spy novels, wrote scripts, made short films with a friend, and when he got an opportunity to move full-time into the Kannada film industry, he didn’t hesitate

In his four years as a writer in this industry, he has worked on films like Kirik Party and Avane Srimannarayana, which were among the biggest box office hits in recent years. He has also directed a short film titled ‘Rainbow Land’ in the anthology Katha Sangama

Chandrajith and I talked about his transition from Software Engineer to Film Writer and Director, but along the way I also got to hear about the way some things work in the film industry. And it’s not always what you imagine from the outside.

This episode is hosted on Buzzsprout and is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Sticher, and other podcast players.

The following transcript has been edited for length and clarity.

Perhaps a good place to begin would be to look at your current occupation.  Can you tell me a bit about your current role in the Kannada film industry as writer and director? 

I am employed as a full time screenwriter at this production house called Paramvah Studios. I juggle between various roles but primarily I do a lot of screenwriting. Probably a year from now I will be looking at directing a couple of features as well. 

Paramvah Studios owned by Rakshit Shetty, one of the famous actor-director in Kannada films. And as I understand so you’ve been working with him for a few years now, since 2016? 

Yes, I am working with him for close to four years now. 

You’ve collaborated with him on Kirik Party, Avane Srimannarayana and also this short film that you’ve made Katha Sangama.

Katha Sangama was in collaboration with Rishab Shetty sir.  The others were with Rakshit Shetty sir. 

It basically started with a project called Thugs of Malgudi which he was supposed to direct and in which he and Sudeep were supposed to act together. I joined as a writer for that project but eventually that didn’t materialize and then I made a transition into Kirik Party

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Rathish Balakrishnan: From IT to the Social Sector

Rathish Balakrishnan started his career as a researcher at INSEAD in France. After a couple of years he returned to India and joined the software company SAP in Bangalore, where he worked for over a decade before co-founding Sattva, a consulting firm focussed on the social sector. Currently Rathish manages the work Sattva does across foundations and nonprofits. 

Rathish and I have known each other since his days at SAP, where we were colleagues. In this conversation we spoke about his career arc spanning two decades.

The podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout and you can listen to it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Sticher and other players.

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Rathish’s desire to create social impact began early. As a teenager he was part of volunteer groups and associations actively engaged in creating social impact. He traces this empathy (for the marginalised sections of society) to his own lower middle-class family background: he grew up in the kindness of strangers, benefiting from scholarships from age ten. “A lot of people at different stages of my life demonstrated extreme kindness for me to be able to get the benefits or the access I got, be it my college education, or my jobs.”

The years in France and the return to India

Following his MSc in Information Systems from BITS Pilani, Rathish moved to INSEAD (France) for an internship. He then stayed on at INSEAD, taking up research on IT related topics. While he liked his work and the exposure he got working with top European Commission officials and senior researchers from around Europe, he frequently found himself asking what he was doing in France. He felt he was part of a cultural context he didn’t quite appreciate or understand. 

He also wanted to be volunteering and supporting social causes. And his friends at INSEAD were advising him that the action was really in India, with so much happening in the country. 

Rathish returned to India in 2004 and took up a job at SAP.  His decision to return to India didn’t go down very well with the family, but in hindsight he thinks it was the right one because of what he made out of it, by volunteering, participating in the theater circuit, and eventually starting Sattva with a few BITS Pilani alumni. 

If an eleven-year-old kid can deal with the darkest lord, then my situation is not probably as bad as I thought it was.

The SAP experience

Rathish says he thoroughly enjoyed working at SAP all through his eleven years there. He began as an engineer, grew into a project lead role, then shifted to product management and later to solution management. Towards the end he even had a stint in SAP’s corporate strategy group. This idea of abstracting to a higher level of detail — “from a worm eye view as a developer to a bird eye view in the corporate strategy team” — was a valuable experience that helped him once he started as an entrepreneur. He benefited from the managers he worked with at SAP, fortunately the “right managers at the right time”. The SAP experience gave him a grounding in structure and process, and it also exposed him to people from cultures across the globe. Both proved invaluable once he moved to Sattva.

And through his SAP years, from 2004 until 2015, he continued to stay in touch with social impact initiatives. At SAP he joined a CSR initiative called SAPPort.  He also joined a group of BITS Pilani alumni who had started an online magazine — called Sattva — focussed on social impact. 

The transition to Sattva

In addition to the magazine, this group had also started a consulting outfit focussed on the social sector. Following his MBA at INSEAD, Krishna (one of the group members)  suggested that they turn these efforts into an organization. In 2009 Sattva Consulting was born. 

Between 2009 and 2015 (the year Rathish left SAP and took up a full-time role at Sattva) came the phase where he juggled between the two roles. Initially the split was 80 or 90% SAP work and the rest on Sattva. The reason for this, Rathish says, was simple: “I come from a lower middle-class background, and I have no romanticism about poverty or financial struggle; I really wanted to be sure that Sattva as a business was viable.

Over the years Rathish the scales tilted more towards Sattva. By 2012 it became clear that Sattva would not grow unless the founders came in full time. Rathish began to spend more time in Sattva without letting his SAP commitment slip: “I would typically wake up at around 4AM, work till 7AM on Sattva, then go to work at SAP; in the evening sometimes I drove off to the other end of Bangalore to be in my Sattva office, came home around 12 or 1 AM.” This took a toll on his health and well-being, apart from putting a lot of pressure on the family. 

The migrant problem is not new; migrants in India have always been treated as poorly as they have been over the last six months, but the recent narrative around a migrant worker walking for thousands of kilometres made that reality so much more vivid for many people who now want to try and solve that problem.

But those years also gave him the confidence that Sattva was something he could do full-time. Around 2014 he began to put the systems (like his finances) in place as he laid the groundwork for the transition out of SAP.  He knew that the longer he stayed at SAP he would not be able to give all his focus to Sattva, and the credibility he had built at SAP would also suffer. By 2014 was clear he had to leave.

The decision itself

Did Rathish’s consulting bent of mind lead him to use a decision framework for this important step? Not really, he says. He finds himself often creating effective frameworks for simpler decisions — which fridge or TV to buy, how to choose a vacation — but for some of the biggest decisions in life — like whom to marry or what jobs to choose — he thinks it’s “almost useless to use a decision making framework… because such decisions are so driven by that fundamental instinct of what you believe is the right thing to do, that the framework becomes a way of rationalizing to your logical self as to why you are making that decision.” 

Instead, he says, what helps is a checklist. A checklist that lists all things that must be done before an important step is taken: for instance, having X amount in the bank, aligning with Y number of people, et cetera.  For him, the desire to work in the social impact space came very early, when he was a teenager, from a place deep within himself. He didn’t really need a framework to make that decision. 

Expectations vs Reality 

One of the surprises he had during this transition was how “awful” he was as an entrepreneur and as somebody running a business. 

While his SAP experience had prepared him well for certain types of work, in Sattva he had to learn several things through experience. Sales, for instance, was something he had never done before. Selling is not taught in schools and that’s a big gap in our education system, Rathish says.  

He also had to learn how to deliver with a team of people who often don’t have the exact skills you want. In such contexts a “growth mindset” becomes key, an attitude that makes you believe that people are capable of much more than what they think they can achieve.  You have to find ways to coach, mentor, and inspire them to create value, he says. 

Business leadership skills, like learning to be prudent with capital, understanding and managing cash flows, were also key to manage and grow the business. Having had no formal training, this was another thing he had to learn on the job. 

I come from a lower middle-class background, and I have no romanticism about poverty or financial struggle; I really wanted to be sure that Sattva as a business was viable.

More fundamentally, the ability to fail regularly and still pick oneself up was something he learned only in Sattva. At SAP, he hardly felt he failed because all failure was collective and attributed to systemic issues, rather than resting on the individual. At Sattva, hardly a week goes by without him facing a failure. 

Influence of writing and theater 

Since childhood, writing and theater have been Rathish’s enduring interests. He started writing when he was nine, engaging in poetry, prose, fiction and nonfiction. He first got on stage to perform in a play around the same age, and until 2009 he performed at least once each year. 

His engagement in these creative arts have helped him build the creativity and empathy needed to solve complex problems in the social space. They help him put people at the center and view the problem not just in terms of numbers and structure. 

He also thinks the value of a narrative in getting people interested in social problems is extremely important. Talking about the recent occurence of migrants leaving cities and walking to their hometowns, he says, “The migrant problem is not new; migrants in India have always been treated as poorly as they have been over the last six months, but the recent narrative around a migrant worker walking for thousands of kilometers made that reality so much more vivid for many people who now want to try and solve that problem.

Narratives also help him inspire others in the social sector.  As a leader of a team of young, mission-driven people, Rathish finds it very helpful to be able to build the right narrative for them to put a problem in perspective in the face of so many adversities they typically face in the social sector. And this applies to himself too: to see the human spirit in the problem ahead, not just numbers, helps him get through difficult phases. 

On the types of people joining the social sector

People want to find meaning in their lives, he says, and they want to add value to others. Among people joining the social sector, these two aspects manifest themselves in different ways.

The first type of people like the experience of directly engaging with a social problem on the ground and deriving satisfaction from it; for instance, teaching in a village school and watching the children learn and grow. The second type are keen on a larger narrative to their lives that highlights the meaning of the work they do; working in the social sector gives them that meaning, even if they are not helping someone regularly on the ground. The third group of people love taking on very complex problems and difficult challenges of the kind that is common in the social sector. 

A lot of people at different stages of my life demonstrated extreme kindness for me to be able to get the benefits or the access I got, be it my college education, or my jobs.

Rathish thinks that while the first type can make good volunteers, a full-time role may not be fulfilling to them because often they’d be doing the kind of work typical in the corporate world: working on spreadsheets, attending meetings, et cetera. The second and third types often find it more interesting to work in the social sector in the long run.

Personal changes before and after the transition

One of the things that has changed for Rathish after taking up Sattva full-time is his desire to keep his job turning into an all consuming affair. He now stops working at 6:30 pm, setting aside enough time for his family, his son. 

He also is now a lot less sure of many opinions he once had. “When I was at SAP  if you’d asked me how to solve education, I would have said put computers in the hands of children, including teachers etc and I would have been very sure of those answers. Now I realize that the problems that we have are extremely complicated and are a lot more nuanced.

He also reads a lot more fantasy fiction now. Given the negativity one finds in the difficult social problems he has to deal with everyday, Rathish looks to books like Harry Potter for inspiration. “If an eleven-year-old kid can deal with the darkest lord, then my situation is not probably as bad as I thought it was.” He has read the Harry Potter series five times end to end. He thinks of the death of Sirius as “probably the saddest moment in literature.

Reading influences 

Factfulness by Hans Rosling is a book Rathish thinks “everybody should read, because the media does such a great job of telling us that the world is going to the dogs that we sometimes don’t recognize the fact that the world is actually getting better.” 

He also deeply enjoys works by Abhijit Banerjee and Esther Duflo, books like Poor Economics and Good Economics for Hard times. The latter one is a “a great read for anybody who really wants to understand how complex some of these problems are and how sometimes the most obvious solutions don’t apply to the problems we are trying to solve.

From a leadership point of view, Ram Charan’s books (Execution, and The Leadership Pipeline) and The Goal by Eliyahu Goldrat have also been very influential.

In hindsight

In the context of these transitions, would he have done anything differently? 

Rathish feels he underestimated the importance of money early on and could have been fiscally more responsible. He also thinks he wouldn’t have done the 2012 to 2014 phase the way he did it, considering the impact it had not only on him but also his family. 

He believes he now has a more balanced view to life, and to the needs of other people.